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Alison Jacobson
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For far too long I was profoundly unhappy in my marriage. It seemed as if I was in tears on a daily basis. The irony was that with the exception of my mom and my cousin, everyone thought I had a great marriage. …

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It’s remarkable how your life can change in an instant. One minute you’re going about your day happy and the next your partner is saying words you never thought you’d hear:

“I want a divorce.”

“I have cancer.”

“We’re broke.”

“Our son is dead.”

I’ve been on the giving and…

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For the longest time I didn’t like me. I was convinced that I wasn’t good enough. When I didn’t get the promotion at work it reinforced that clearly I wasn’t smart enough. When best friends turned against me through my divorce I was certain that there must be some deep…

Often it’s hard to keep in mind that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. …

When you’re disabled, date nights require research to find out what places are truly wheelchair accessible.

Let’s agree that marriage isn’t easy. It’s a lesson in compromise, trust, patience, and perseverance. I’m not sure if most people really consider their marriage vows — in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer.

My marriage to my second husband tested this to its limits.

I met

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This week I’m turning 56. Just writing this blows my mind — how the hell did I get to be this age?!

Trust me, it happened in the blink of an eye. I know that sounds cliché but it’s the truth. …

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Thirteen years ago I finally worked up the courage to tell my first husband that I wanted to end our marriage. I was broken, exhausted, and had zero self-confidence.

It took two years filled with fear, grief, anger, and chaos to actually finalize the divorce. All I wanted was freedom…

Three days with nothing but sunrises and coffee. Image bu author.

Last year I found myself wanting to escape my life for a little while. I was tired of COVID, disheartened by the ugliness of politics and wanting to shut out the ugliness of the world.

Most importantly I needed to process the recent death of one of my dearest friends…

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It’s incredible how many people, when you announce you’re getting a divorce, finally decide to speak up and tell you that they never liked your spouse. Why did they wait until the s*&t hit the fan to tell you what they really thought? I mean, weren’t they sitting there when…

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If someone were to ask you whether you want to be happy, you’d probably think they were crazy. I mean, who wouldn’t want to be happy, right? But what if someone were to ask the question a bit differently?

Are you willing to do whatever it takes to be happy?

Alison Jacobson

Living my best life in midlife and helping other women do the same. Part spirituality/part practicality. alison-jacobson.com

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